Thriving or Surviving

This past weekend, I wrote THIS post and THIS post about getting a lot done and invited you to work on your own tasks as well. Sometimes, I'm able to be extremely productive over a couple of days with minimal negative impact on the days that follow. Other times, not so much. This is one of those other times.  Today, I had a list of tasks I wanted to accomplish before work, during my breaks and lunch, and after work. Instead of doing any of them, I just barely managed to take care of my dog and a dog that I was babysitting today. And, I just barely got through my day regular work day.  I woke up feeling absolutely drained--possibly from excessive bad dreams driven by the current news cycle mixed with warmer than usual weather--and slept in until I absolutely had to get up in order to take my dog to go potty and to be back at my desk on time for work. I didn't do anything on either of my breaks or my lunch other than the bare minimum which included taking my dog and her doggie...

I recently wrote THIS blog post about getting lots of little tasks done around my home. The key is that each task was *small* and *defined*. As much as a good friend and I want to say we will clean and organize our ENTIRE homes, we both find that to be overwhelming. Even saying, "I'm going to clean my living room" is frequently too much! So, what do we do instead?  We create small and measurable goals that are easy to accomplish. And, we do that over and over throughout the day. You could argue that we are simply making to do lists, but I think that over simplifies things. We don't make a complete list of everything we plan to accomplish for the day as that can feel overwhelming. Instead, we list out just a handful of tiny tasks and micro-goals, accomplish those, and then repeat the process. When I wrote the post linked above (and linked  here ), I did set a larger goal, but I broke it down into micro-goals. The larger goal was to clean up the living room, dining are...

I love the idea of a weekly or monthly reset, but they don't work when everything feels chaotic all the time.  Due to some chronic health issues, I've not been keeping up on a lot around my home for months. Thus, piles have grown here and there. Dustbunnies have also grown here and there. No surface is clear or clean. My home is stressing me out right now. This is not how I want to live. I've started some new meds recently, and while there are some unpleasant side effects, overall, I do feel about 80% of normal. My energy is improving, as are my strength and overall stamina. So, today seemed like a good day to get lots of little things done.  If you've been feeling stuck and need a body double, then feel free to work alongside the tasks I list in this post!  My first step to any project that could be overwhelming is to text one of my dearest friends with my thoughts ("I don't want to do this. I hate this. Why is everything so messy all the time?"). Then, I...

On June 27th, 2024, I was given a layoff notice and 60 days to finish out my position before it would be eliminated. August 27th, I walked away without a new job lined up, despite many applications and many interviews -- a technicality in my old job's classification was getting in the way of a new job offer.  Fast forward to October 7th when I started a new job.  I was actually offered four jobs all at about the same time and had interviews for several others lined up. It felt great to know I was WANTED. I felt validated and valued! Of the four jobs I was offered: The first was offered based entirely on my resume and after only a five minute conversation. The pay, however, was low and the hours not great. The second job I was offered seemed like a great cultural fit and everyone was welcoming and warm when I did a shadow session as part of the interview process. The HR person told me that I not only could negotiate any offered salary but that I SHOULD . They offered just a tin...

This post contains affiliate links towards the end. Any purchase made through such links may result in a commission to me, but at NO COST to you. Thank you in advance! My mental health has been suffering lately. I received a layoff notice at work on June 27th and my job was officially eliminated on August 27th. Throughout the two months in between, and the month and a half since then and when I am drafting this post, I've been stressed out, anxious, and depressed. I very quickly started to binge more social media content than is normal for me, but I also realized that even before these events, I was spending a lot more time on social media than is ideal.  You can learn more about my lay off journey on YouTube HERE . Early in September, I was scrolling on Instagram, mindlessly, and realized how dissatisfied I was with my time on social media, primarily Instagram and Facebook. I really don't use much else -- I dabble in YouTube and go to Pinterest for inspiration and recipes, but...

This blog post contains an affiliate link for Rothy's, indicated by an asterisk (*) next to the first instance of the link. Approaching new people and trying to make connections can feel impossible for shy, socially anxious introverts like myself. Being an introvert alone can make socializing a challenge, but also being shy and socially anxious makes getting to know others feel terribly daunting.  What do you say? How do you approach someone? How do you keep the conversation going? For many, these aren't big issues and meeting new people and keeping the conversation going is easy and doesn't require much thought.  But, if you're shy and feel anxious meeting new people and being social, I have a tip for you -- especially if, like me, you want to be social but feel paralyzed by the prospect: Make your wardrobe do some of the work for you.  Frequently I meet people and start chatting because a stranger approaches me to compliment some aspect of my attire or to ask a questi...